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From Perfectionist to Doer.

Each time a celebrity passes who means something to us, the world takes a moment to reflect on their amazing body of work, their energy, their magic.

We don’t always think of the sacrifices that they make along the way to be extraordinary at what they do.

Their dedication to their craft takes more than a couple of lucky breaks. It takes focus and determination to do the work even if other people don’t like it.

What’s their secret?

They don’t have perfection paralysis.

They work through whatever feelings of insecurity they have and they create anyway.

They don’t wait – they do.

One of the biggest lies we tell ourselves is that we must be ready before we begin any new venture.

This can lead to perfection paralysis as we think the project to death and never get it off the ground.

We doubt our abilities.

We feel there’s no need to bother because everything has already been said or done by others.

We think no one will ever want what we have to offer.

You ever get that feeling that you’re waiting for everything to be perfect before starting something new? Like your idea must be fully formed and every angle analyzed before you’ll take action?

The stars aren’t going to align without you moving them into place yourself.

We don’t make change happen by thinking but by doing.

I had this breakthrough last year. I believed if my actions weren’t perfect out the gate, that it wasn’t worth doing.

Instead of thinking about creating something like I usually did, I took small actions that snowballed into creating what I wanted.

I realized that by starting down a path with action – by starting before everything was perfect – I could accomplish what I wanted.

So what amazing thing do you want to do? And how can you move into action.

–> Assess what you want.

Create time for yourself to think about what you want.

This isn’t where you overthink or let your mind wander to your grocery list.

It’s time to think about what you really want in life. How you want to spend your time? What do you need to cut out of your life to make time for what you want?

It’s tough, but it’s necessary if you want to make real change in your life.

–> Create an action plan. 

Notice how it says ACTION plan?

It’s easy to overanalyze and start down the rabbit hole of “to dos” before you get started.

Don’t do that!

What things do you ABSOLUTELY have to do before you get started.

For example, when I first though about creating my business, I knew I would have to get permits. So I found out what permits I needed, and I got permits.

Maybe I wasn’t ready to get into full on production at that point, but I did something to start creating what I wanted. From there, it snowballed.

Once you start getting the ball rolling, I think you’ll find everything else becomes easier and easier.

START BEFORE YOU’RE READY.

Or maybe you feel like you don’t have the ability to do what you want to do most.

Remember that every person who’s entered any field started before they were ready. By doing so, they developed the skills they needed to shine at what they do.

Elizabeth Gilbert and J.K. Rowling weren’t born writers. They started writing short stories and grew their competencies to build larger stories. Musicians play gigs where they’re sometimes booed off stage, but they keep going until they improve at their craft.

–> Don’t be afraid to change course.

You may try an idea on for size, and you’re not thrilled by it. That’s okay!

My high school biochem teacher, Larry Nordell, told us:

“INVOLVEMENT PRECEDES INTEREST.”

Before we know whether we’re passionate about something, we must try it on for size. It may not fit your personality after all, or maybe you’re pleasantly surprised at one aspect of your venture that excites you.

When you’re determining whether to change course, keep one thing in mind> Are you changing course because you’re truly unhappy with your decision, and your life is less joyful? Or are you changing course because you’re scared?

Fear can tell you two things: 1) you’re supposed to run from that hungry bear to survive, or 2) your transformation will come by doing that thing that scares you the most.

Which one is it?

–> If it’s not scheduled, it’s not real.

Write down a benchmark in your calendar. Tell yourself, “I’m going to do ‘X’ by next Friday.”

Make your first action items small, discrete tasks.

Alright, it’s transformation time!

What one thing are you going to try on for size? What dream has you up late at night? Comment below. I want to hear what magic you’re going to bring to the table.

Xoxo,

Dina

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