Moms are amazing. They pick you up when you’re down, make everything better with a kiss, and seem like supermom when working full time and raising you (and taking care of dad) all at the same time.
My mom is one of those amazing mothers. And she lives with love and grace daily. Through her actions, she’s shown me how to live life well. We can all learn a thing or two from her.
Here are just a few of Mom’s secrets to living beautifully.
1. Take time to connect with people genuinely.
Mom shows genuine interest in the people around her, and people are interested in return.
My mom is a waitress, and she loves her job. She shows up ready to engage, joke around, show her sarcasm and wit. Customers ask for her section because they love her personality.
When customers found out recently that her restaurant was closing (where she’s been working for almost 20 years), tons of them reached out and gave their contact information to her so she could let them know where she was going to work. They wanted to follow her there!
When we walk down the street, customers stop her on the sidewalk to talk with her. They love her!
In one of the restaurants where she’s applying for a position, one of her customers happened to be there. They came up to her, hugged her and told the manager to hire her.
She receives this love and generosity because she connects with people genuinely. She has a big heart, and people see it.
Taking time to show you care about their lives, and sharing in return, creates connection.
2. Shake off negativity.
Whenever I came home from school, and someone was mean to me, she’d say,
“I’m sorry, sweetie. At least you don’t have to live with them.”
She’d explain that their negativity was their problem, and you don’t have to be around them all the time.
I love that saying.
People can treat you poorly, but you don’t have to be around them all the time. Lucky you!
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3. Give your full attention to what’s important to you.
I remember her reading to me at night and teaching me how to sound out words. She was never distracted by a cell phone (although she still doesn’t have one of those), and she never refused me a bedtime story.
She made time for what was important to her, and she gave it her full attention. Sometimes that means letting go of the less important things.
Sure, the housekeeping may have suffered. But what’s more important, teaching your child to read or dusting the bookshelves?
Know what matters to you, and give it your full attention.
4. Make time for yourself.
Everyone needs an outlet. Hers is creating. Mom painted and took art classes before I was born. Then she moved on to sewing (clothes, wall hangings, quilts), beadwork, and knitting. (And she’s good at it! I love having my own personal jeweler.)
She knows that to feel like herself, she needs to make time to be creative. She likes solving artistic puzzles; figuring out what color fabrics look best together and how to bend wire to create a design in a necklace fascinate her.
When she makes time to do what she loves, she’s energized. Then she channels that energy into those she loves.
Making time for yourself is the best gift you can give your loved ones.
5. Keep trying, no matter what.
Mom has almost always had a black thumb. She couldn’t get plants to grow to save her life. She’d have a perfectly healthy plant, water and love it, then it’d wilt and die. Never failed.
But she never gave up on gardening. She loves plants.
If it was dry and looked dead, she tried nursing that plant to life with attention, water and sunlight. Even if it still died.
Now, over just the last few years, it seems no plant will die around her. They grow like weeds.
It pays to persevere. With hard work and experimentation, you can find a solution.
This handful of secrets create lasting connection to yourself and others. I’m so grateful that my mom has given me her actions as an example of how to live life well.
Now it’s your turn. What words of wisdom or wisdom in action did you see from your mom? Let me know in the comments.